Most the time we see and feel all the disadvantages and heartache of singleness, but the truth is, there is some good. In my last post I talked about six things that singleness doesn't mean for you(what-being-single-doesnt-mean-for-you.html), but in this post I want to talk about six things that singleness DOES mean for you.
There is a lot we don't know and understand. And although we may not know what's next or what God is doing or what He has in store, we can trust that He is good. He is a loving, kind, and gracious Father who supplies our needs and fills our heart's desires. We can trust what we know. And that is that we have a loving, faithful, generous God. Don't allow yourself to focus on what you don't know or understand, but instead let the pages of God's truth fill your heart and be a steady Rock of what is known. We don't need to know or understand everything. We simply only need to know God and learn to TRUST that His ways and timing are perfect.
3. Opportunity Being single means opportunity for opportunity. While your single you are blessed with so many incredible opportunities that you might not be able to do as a married woman. Want to travel? Go for it! Hoping to experience overseas missions? Now's the time! Want to try something new? Why not now! Relationships come with responsibilities and commitments and a whole new set of things. Most likely meaning that your time and focus won't be the same. Single life allows you the freedom to experience things that you as a married woman probably won't get to experience. This is a season for opportunity. Don't waste it by waiting for what's next. Enjoy the time you have now. Both are blessings! Each different though. Both should be enjoyed by the opportunities they each uniquely bring.
5. Preparation This season of singleness means a time of preparation. None of us are ever as fully prepared as we think we are. We seek to become wives but are we ready to be one? We seek to run a home but are we ready to do so? We seek to care for a family but are ready for what that entails? We seek love and affection, but are we ready to selflessly give that? Truth is, no one is ever fully ready or prepared. Even when you are married, you will still be learning and growing. However, now is a perfect time to prepare for what that might consist of. Learn to plan and cook meals. Learn to clean. Learn to host. Learn to sew. Learn to budget. Learn to serve and love selflessly. Learn something new! Learn. We will always be learning and growing, but why not take advantage of the time we have now to learn all we can and build on that? 6. Prayer
It's always a good time to pray. ALWAYS. Now is no exception. So pray. Don't seek to spend this season alone. Pray. Go to God. Tell Him how you feel. Tell Him your desires, your hopes, your fears. Tell Him, and then surrender it to Him. Give it all to God and allow Him to transform your heart through each prayer. Surrender your heart and your prayers and then begin praying for your future husband. That's right, pray for him. Even though you don't know who he is or where he is, you can be praying. Because, most likely, he is needing it. Pray for his heart. Pray for his salvation. Pray that He would grow in His knowledge and love for the Lord. Pray that he would develop a servant's heart and serve the Lord humbly. Pray that God prepares his heart for you and when you meet. Pray. Just pray. When you grow weary, pray. When you start to wonder and dream, pray. Continue to pray, always. THIS GIRL IS 21 TOMORROW. TWENTY ONE. Yeah, I know, crazy. Sister, friend, and just about everything God knew I needed through this precious life.
She is loyal. She is kind. She is genuine. She listens well and loves deep. She is Godly and beautiful, and growing more so every day. God was gracious when He gave this world Jaycie. I know we don't celebrate her often enough but we are all thankful for her. <3 HAPPY 21ST TO THIS BEAUTIFUL ONE!
Let’s take the time even now, while we are single, to learn from the older women how to live wisely, be pure, work in our homes, do good, and serve those whom God has placed over us. Maybe it isn’t a husband during this time, maybe it’s your father.. Or another man of authority in your life.
“And I want women to be modest in their appearance. They should wear decent and appropriate clothing and not draw attention to themselves by the way they fix their hair or by wearing gold or pearls or expensive clothes. For women who claim to be devoted to God should make themselves attractive by the good things they do.” (1Timothy 2:9-10) 4. Pour yourselves in fleeting and foolish things. I think that it's easy to quickly become discouraged by the fact that we are still single and not yet married and therefore, without even thinking about it, throw ourselves into empty, meaningless things. Whether it's because we seek to distract ourselves or fill ourselves, we end up putting our time and effort into things that are fleeting and foolish. Things of the world, not things of heaven. It's easy to think that because we are young and have no one to answer to that we can enjoy the pleasures of the world. Yet, although we don't have a husband or a family to deal with, we have God to answer to. Is our work and energy going into things that advance His kingdom, or are they going into things that please our flesh and try to distract us from our sorrow or discomfort? The book of Ecclesiastes is a great book to read of how King Solomon learned that anything apart from Christ is meaningless. The things of this life and world are empty and fleeting. We can try to find and soak in all the pleasures we can, but it simply won't satisfy. Don't spend your time on things of this world because it will get you no where. Seek Christ and invest in His work! "Young people, it’s wonderful to be young! Enjoy every minute of it. Do everything you want to do; take it all in. But remember that you must give an account to God for everything you do. So refuse to worry, and keep your body healthy. But remember that youth, with a whole life before you, is meaningless." Ecclesiastes 11:9-10
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